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Thursday, September 30, 2010

Fall Pictures

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Friday, September 17, 2010

Ready or not....

Fall is upon us! I have been in denial, sounding quite a bit like many of the summer-cravers around this part of the country. We left for Ecuador in late August, full of the summery warm weather in our hearts. Ecuador did not let us down in the weather department either. We had a bit of warm, tropical rains but they were more refreshing than gloomy. Somewhere between leaving Quito and landing in Portland, the Fall switch was flipped.  I have dug in my heels and clung to my summer idea for a couple of weeks now but who am I kidding? School has started, rain is falling and the crisp Autumn air greets me every morning. Don't get me wrong. I love Fall. It may just be my favorite time of the year. I love all things Autumn like scarves, colorful leaves, spiced baking, and the "chai tea weather." So even though on some level my internal calendar says there must be a few weeks of summer left, I will embrace what surrounds me.

Yesterday I made some caramel apple muffins, (soon to be on my cooking blog) and today I snapped a few final pictures of the girls playing on the deck. We don't get much use of the back yard during the rainy months, so these may be it for a while. Just to go along with our seasonal theme, it started to rain as we played. The girls giggled and tried to eat the rain drops and I said to myself, ready or comes the rain!
Karalee wanted us to take a picture like "mom and dad do" =) girl on the move. She is a busy bee.

Monday, September 13, 2010

Ecuador: Helping that doesn't Hurt

Well it has been almost a week since we have returned from our 10 days in Ecuador.  It has taken me a while to put into words an accurate summary of our trip. Everyone we see, text, Facebook or talk to on the phone asks us about our trip. The question, always the same, sounds something like, "What did you do while you were there? Did you finish your project?" 

Nolan and I have been on a combined total of 19 short-term mission trips all over the map. For every other trip we've been on, this question has had an easy answer. "We built a house, we led a camp, we assembled a church, we remodeled the bathroom..." Each trip left us feeling very full, knowing that we had completed a "mission" of providing a service for the area we visited. However, after returning from a week with Steve Saint, hearing his heart and perspective on missions, we return with a new perspective. This changed perspective compels us to share with other North Americans, that we need to be careful. 

North Americans (myself definitely included) like to be productive. We measure success by our accomplishments and by the amount of things we can check off of a list. If you are like me, you add "make a list" to your check list so that you can feel productive in checking something off right away. =) Unfortunately, we take this mindset with us on the mission field. We approach our trip with a task in mind and often isolate ourselves from the community we are trying to reach. We accomplish our goal, with our team by our side and hand over the set of keys at the end of the week. Somehow, this makes us feel that we've made a difference for good. We've given people something we think they need and in our opinion will make their lives better.We have approached it with our world view, our culture and our priorities as the guide.

One story Steve shared with us went something like this....A missions organization took a team to a small town in another country. They wanted to bless them with generosity in hopes of showing them the love of Christ. They took their team and built a house for the most destitute person they met. At the end of the week, I imagine they went home feeling pretty good about themselves. They had spent their break getting their hands dirty, bonding as a team, seeing how "poor" others were and coming back with a dissolving memory of poverty in light of their blessings. What they didn't know, was that the town they were trying to reach was disgusted by this "act of kindness." The team had built a house for the laziest man in the community. The man who had taken no initiative to provide for himself. This man now had the best house in town. The people came together and burned it down.

We often approach missions with the "what will this trip do for us" mentality. It will bond our youth group. It will show this 30 something person what they have to be grateful for. It will spur this 50 year old to donate more of his business profits to a missions organization.  What we don't realize is that we are often using these trips to benefit ourselves with a complete disregard for the long term affect that our "outreach" has on the visited community. 

 Giving freely of our time and resources to these impoverished communities makes us feel good. We somehow feel like we are reducing our "selfish-imprint' in life.  The growing trend is to just send our money to help.  In our support letter, I sited this quote. “Give a man a fish and you have fed him a meal. Teach him to fish and you have fed him for a life-time. Teach him how to make fishing tackle and boats so he can teach others, and everyone in the village will be fed.” The people of the world want to be taught and inspired to do things themselves. It would go along way if we partnered with the communities we visited, working alongside them rather than doing everything for them. In Steve's Book, The Great Omission, he sights some brief reasons why giving without connection or personal investment really does hurt the greater goal. The following is one example.
     -Personal Devaluation: If people are always given things, they begin to expect the things, thereby negating personal dreams or aspirations of climbing out of their current condition. Always being on the receiving end encourages believers to see themselves as incompetent, unable to learn even if they did decide they wanted to.

Don't get me wrong. This doesn't mean to stop donating to your mission fund at church or never giving to another short term trip again. I am only asking you to look at the goal and heart of missions as we see it. We are called to go and make disciples AS WE GO. Steve likens it to a relay race. We should go with the gospel, and teach them about the word of God. It is then our job to pass them the baton so that they can reach their communities and lead their churches. "Missions is the scaffolding that helps build the local church. It is temporary and should never be cemented in place." (p.168, The Great Omission.)  Over the course of this trip, the following mission method was shared with us.

     KNOW God yourself.
     GO to where He needs to be preached.
     SHOW them how to follow God.
     BLOW: Leave to start the process again in another place.

"The objective of missions is to plant an indigenous church that is self-propagating, self-governing, and self-supporting. The most spiritually critical thing we can do is help with the part that is most lacking. If they need jobs, [help them] start a business; don't build them a church or a seminary building." (p. 165, The Great Omission.)  

It is safe to say that Nolan and I now have a new passion/desire to reflect on the motive and product behind both short-term and long-term missions. We want to make sure that we are not training people to think that they are inferior because they lack the fancy tools and huge teams that come and do their work in a fraction of a time. We don't want to stifle their growth by conditioning them to believe that they should wait for the "professionals" of North America to come and [teach, disciple, build, evangelize] better than they can.

So, how was our trip? It revolutionized the way we look at missions. We helped the people of Shell, Ecuador in building a project. We partnered with them on the job site, letting them lead us. We learned their names. We came alongside of them and their vision to provide jobs and training for their own people. We built relationships and fellowshipped with their local church. We made them feel valued and equipped to do the job that God has given them as a church. We loved them. And in that, we were successful!

I hope you enjoy our pictures...

Saturday, August 21, 2010

What do you get when.... take an old skirt...
Exhibit A
and a remnant of fabric...???
Exhibit B

Well you get  blankets of course!

Nolan and I leave for Ecuador in 5 1/2 days! I am cleaning, organizing, in a mad dash getting things ready. Yesterday I was straightening up my side of the closet when I came across this old bridesmaid skirt from Pete and Holly's wedding. It is nine(ish) years old and no matter how much I love my brother and his wife, I doubt I will ever wear this again.
Along with cleaning, part of my preparations include buying and wrapping small gifts for the girls to open from mom and dad when we are away. I hope to bring excitement (and distraction) while we are gone for 10 days.  We were in JoAnn's the other day and both girls went bananas over this fabric. Reaching, grabbing, petting, hugging....quite dramatic. You see, though neither have a "one and only" special blanket--they do have  a favorite kind of blanket. Karalee refers to them as poke-a- dot B's. Any super soft fabric with the raised bubble will do. I bought a small remnant for a little less than $3, not sure what I would do with it.
When I saw the old silk-ish skirt I immediately thought of this remnant and decided to make the girls little snuggle blankets--to open when we are gone. I spent about 2 1/2 hours and this is how they came out. I was pretty excited!

Along with the skirt, I also found an old baby shower gift bag in my closet. It had a cute ribbon on it, but the bag itself was badly creased. So I used the ribbon from the trashed gift bag to make personalized tags. My new sewing machine has a monogram feature so I put the girls' initials on the ribbon. This way there is no confusion which  "B" belongs to which girl.
Believe it or not, this is the first time I realized Audree's initials are ARF. Sorry Audree!
So fun! I CAN'T WAIT to leave these for the girls. Part of me wants to let them have their new treat now, but I will wait. I know it will be a better surprise later!

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

A moment for fun...

Well, as many of you have noticed, (and mentioned) I haven't posted in a while! We have been super busy planning and preparing for Ecuador. Along with this exciting opportunity, we have also been seeking the Lord for wisdom in a new ministry. We are SO EXCITED to be moving into the realm of college ministry! We are beginning to form relationships, brainstorm ideas and make rough plans for this transition.

This hasn't left a whole lot of time for the fun hobby type things. Well yesterday I made time to re-cover this bench that we found at a yard sale this summer. It was ripped pleather and not so pretty. I decided to try and find something that coordinated with the room but wasn't matchy-matchy. Keeping in mind that patterns are forgiving when it comes to small children, I headed to the fabric store. We now have a little extra seating for when people come over, i.e. college students! Fun!

Friday, July 16, 2010

Conviction, Calling and Courage...Would you like to be a part?

In January, Nolan and I sat down to write some specific goals we wanted to focus on as Christians, parents, business owners, and as a family. One of the main convictions we had was that we wanted to be a family who was "always abounding in the work of the Lord." 1 Corinthians 15:58 has quickly become a verse that we cling to.

We had no idea that before the year was over, we would be called to take a trip! A few weeks ago we were asked to think about being part of a small team headed to Ecuador to work with Steve Saint.
(View his testimony at )
After several doors being open, and several hours of prayer, we feel confident that the Lord is leading us to go! We will be headed to Ecuador on August 27th and will return home on September 5th.

What are we going to be a part of?

Well I'm glad you asked! One of the main goals of ITECH (Indigenous People's Technology and Education Center) is to train and Equip indigenous God-followers to care for the physical and spiritual needs of their people. " One of the great barriers that has prevented indigenous churches from growing is their dependence on outsiders. A native church that relies on the leadership, technology, and financial support of foreign missionaries rarely can stand on its own when that support is withdrawn. We are convinced from the Scriptures, however, that the goal of the Great Commission is to establish churches that are self-supporting, self-governing, and self-propagating."

It has been said “Give a man a fish and you have fed him a meal. Teach him to fish and you have fed him for a life-time. Teach him how to make fishing tackle and boats so he can teach others, and everyone in the village will be fed.” The same principle is applied by ITECH, involving the Great Commission. Not only are they spreading the gospel, but they are giving people skills and hope to build and maintain churches who can then join in the effort to spread the gospel themselves. ITECH is a program that teaches the indigenous people how to provide medical care, dental work, engine repair, and eyeglasses to their people.

What are we going to be doing?

Team I-TEC has decided to build a prototype International Missionary Trainer Training Center for Spanish speaking South America, in Shell Mera on the edge of the Ecuadorian jungle (where the Saint family was living when Nate Saint was killed) . Here, they will work out plans and details that can be duplicated in other regions of the world. Our team will be helping to complete part of this INTERNATIONAL MISSIONARY TRAINER EDUCATION CENTER.

This building will include a hangar, classrooms, offices (sleeping room), and a kitchen; (Approximately 4200 square feet)
For more information, please visit

How can you help?

We covet your prayer support!

Ways you can pray....

-Safety in travel from Salem, Oregon to Ecuador (and back!).

-We are confident the Lord has called us to be a part of this trip, however leaving our girls for a little over a week will not be easy. Please pray for peace for us and a blessed time for our girls with their Nana, Mimi, and Aunt Julie!

-Completion of Financial support.

We currently have 50% of the trip covered! We praise the Lord for this provision and continue to have faith that He will provide the means as we seek to follow His plan.

$5, $10, $20....every penny helps! If 85 people give $20, our trip would be covered! Would you choose to take part?

If you would like to make a donation please click the donate button on the right side of the blog! If you would like to send a check, our address is

Nolan & Jayme Frildey
485 Upper LaVista CT NW
Salem, OR 97304

Please let us know if you would like to commit to praying for us and will add you to our prayer team!

Blessing to you all,
Nolan and Jayme
"Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your toil is not in vain in the Lord." 1 Corinthians 15:58 .

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Birthday Bashes.....

I know I am behind but I have to post a few pictures of Audree's birthday before I can post Karalee's.  Audree's birthday was about a month ago. We had a cupcake theme. So fun to celebrate our precious littlest girl!
The cupcakes were fun to make and I used the Buttercream Dream recipe that I posted here on my cooking blog.
Karalee turned 3 on July 3rd.  She wanted a Rainbow theme and a very chocolate cake! =) That's my girl!
Papa bought her a small bounce house and she received princess costumes from both Nana and Mimi.  This girl is way blessed!